4 years ago, I moved across the world (from Turkey) to go to grad school in San Francisco. After finishing the school, I realized that I didn't really want to work in my field (Linguistics - Teaching English) and that I wasn't very passionate about my job. I started to doubt every decision I made about my life and career, ended up going through a tough "quarter life crisis".
During the summer of 2016, anxiety and depression hit me even harder after losing our passports and having to cancel our wedding that was supposed to be in Turkey. We were not allowed to get on a plane to Turkey, I was desperate to see my family and just go home. I was terribly homesick and really hated my life in US. I didn't have really good girlfriends, no family here, not a job that I was looking forward to in the morning. I just wanted to quit everything and reevaluate my life's purpose.
So that's what I did.
TAKE A LITTLE BREAK TO DISCOVER WHAT MAKES YOUR HEART HAPPY
I quit my job with just one mission in mind: ONLY DO THE THINGS THAT BRING YOU JOY AND HEALTH.
I started taking yoga, Pilates, discovering healthy food cafes in the city. I was just so happy living this healthy lifestyle, immersing myself with everything wellness related. Then it hit me: how can I combine my teaching skills, my purpose for helping others with my passion for health/wellness? I literally created a list of ten things that I can do:
ASK YOURSELF THIS: What would you do if you knew that you would not fail?
I still have the answers to this question in my old notebook: becoming a yoga/pilates instructor, starting my own wellness blog, enrolling into a nutrition school, opening a studio etc. Then, I wrote next to each of these items: 1. how much each of it would cost and 2. how much time it would take to achieve each of these goals.
Enrolling into a Pilates teacher training program made the top of that list. I realized that my heart belonged to Pilates! I personally benefited from it so much mentally and physically and I truly believed that it can help others too. I researched which program to choose - read my 5 tips for choosing the right teacher training for you blog post. I extensively studied Pilates under multiple schools and became a certified Pilates instructor this year!
GET READY TO STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Before starting this new career path, I thought I was a very confident person. I grew up an A student and always did/achieved what was expected of me. Becoming a movement instructor was so out of my comfort zone. It meant a new identity, new values and finding myself in a completely unfamiliar field and community. I had to build my confidence from zero with baby steps. I’m still working on it every single day.
KEEP GOING EVEN WHEN YOU ARE AFRAID AND YOUR KNEES ARE SHAKING
Let me tell you that you will doubt yourself and your decision almost everyday. At least I did. I was so full of fear and doubt. I was afraid of failure. To be seen as not good enough. Feeling of “I don’t belong here.” I kept saying to myself “I will never be good enough, or he/she is so much better than me – why would I even try… what if I completely fail and then all of my time/energy is wasted for nothing?” I walked around with this cloud of negative scenarios for months, they still come back at times, but less often.
YOUR MINDSET IS YOUR EVERYTHING.
Work on your mindset/perspective more than anything. Believe in yourself. If you don’t believe and empower yourself, it doesn’t matter if you are the most knowledgeable/competent person in the world. Work on your mental and physical health as much as working on your new goals and skills you need to learn. In my opinion, one needs to be calm, joyful and confident to be the best at whatever they are doing. Know that I believe in YOU and you (we) absolutely got this!
Have you experienced a similar change in your life? I would love to hear your stories, advice and tips. Also, please let me know if you have any questions or want to chat about this. I'm here to help and support you!
Lots of love,